Just what I hoped for

When I started this blog, my intention was to send it to all of our friends and family. I felt like I needed to teach them what to do when someone loses a child or experiences a tragedy. Obviously they didn't know as evidenced by their actions (or lack of action). After much prayer, I received input from my husband and a close friend that this was not my job. My words might hurt them and when God thought that they were ready, He would teach them this lesson.

So, I just started my blog not knowing who it might help. At first, not too many people read it -- 161 total in the first week. But then a handful of people posted links to it from their blogs and now 9 weeks later almost 3,000 people have seen it. That's a very small number compared to many other blogs out there. But, that's really amazing to me. Of course, not everyone actually "reads" my blog but still, my thoughts and experiences have been able to touch other peoples lives. Many others.

Yesterday, I noticed over 100 people logged on. This was a very large number considering that I haven't posted for 3 days. So, I looked to see where they were coming from. I noticed that they came from a website called THE BUMP.COM. It's a website for pregnant women and is an extension of THE KNOT.COM.

It took a while for me to figure out how they were getting to my site from this one but at 10:57 last night, I figured it out. Someone had posted a question in the forum section asking for advice on what to do for a friend who's baby died. Many people responded. Most with the typical bring a meal, send a card type stuff. But then someone posted this:


Meals helped us. There is a lady who had a loss and she wrote a whole blog about how to help.. hope she doesn't mind me posting here, but maybe you can find an idea there..
http://lookingforbluesky.blogspot.com/2009/06/drowning.html


Isn't that cool? That's just what I hoped for. I hoped that by putting our experience and my suggestions out there, people would use it as a reference. That they would send it to people who are in that situation. I can't believe that's what actually happened. It just melted my heart. Oh, how I hope that it helped that woman who lost her child. My heart just aches for anyone going through this.